Introduction: Dating on the Rebound for Men

Hello there,

I started this blog two-fold: One, I am doing it for an Online Publication class i’m taking in College. Two, as fate would have it, I needed a topic and i’m in need of a place to vent my frustrations on the issues of being single and the difficulties of dating after almost a two year hiatus.

That’s right, two years. 730 days. 17,520 hours. For approximitely 1,051,200 million minutes -I wasn’t single and I wasn’t on the rebound…so to speak.

First, a brief history…

This past December I had hit a turning point in my very green, very promising life.

My girlfriend, soon-to-be fiance, ended our relationship of nearly two years. The timing couldn’t have been better. It was the day following a trip to NYC that included dinner, broadway tickets, and shopping all-expense-paid via yours truly, weeks after I had just finished up hundreds of dollars worth of christmas shopping on her, and not much more than a month after I had discussed borrowing or taking a loan from my brother to cover my bases while saving my finances for the engagement ring I was eyeing up for her.

Yes, engagement ring. I even knew when and how I was gonna pop the big question. And before I could she ended it.

To say that I was crushed and am still a tiny bit bitter, is an unquestionable understatement.

One may even argue, as many close to me have, that maybe i’m not ready for dating and a potential new relationship.

My thought pattern is this: When is the best time? From what I can tell, there’s no better time than now. And if anything, getting myself out there dating will assist in the recovery process, or the Coping Process.

Still, another question looms….HOW?

I haven’t dated anyone else in quite some time. I mean, I gather the jist of it. Like a friend of mine says, “It’s a lot like riding a bike. You’re a little rusty at first, but after a while, it comes back to you.”

Still…I’ve been “out of the game” for quite a while. I won’t deny my hesitation and reluctance is driven primarily from a slight nervousness or fear of the dilemma.

When I say fear, what I mean is, “fear of the unknown” or those that you do not know. I’ve been with one woman for two years. I know what to do, what she likes, what I like, what is okay, what is not okay, how to act, my roles. There is a clear, concise understanding and comfort level that comes with a relationship of that caliber.

And after having that for an extended period of time, it’s very troubling to suddenly lose that and end up thrown back into the pond to search for another fish with all new levels and roles.

And I know it’s not just me that feels this way. I know I’m not the only one encountering this situation. Wondering….HOW?

I suppose the only way to ever figure out HOW, is to dive right in and see what happens. Some of it will be playful, some of it serious. Some research, some opinion and satire. But overall, helpful is the key.

So, I will be presenting myself as the first-hand experience, the experiment of sorts for those guys, (and possibly even gals), that have been out of the dating scene for a while and are unsure, worried, concerned, or struggling to get their feet wet and get back on the court and “posting up”.

In addition to my personal rendyzvous and their explicit contents, I will also provide coverage, research, articles, and info from other sources i encounter and find relevant. Also, there will be from time to time, advice from experts as well as personal acquaintances in my life on the various issues I have been encountering in my somewhat awkward journey back into the realm of dating after a serious relationship failure.

Hopefully, when all is said and done, I will have maneuvered my way throughout the dating scene in a positively revealing and enlightening experience for everyone to relate to, take and learn from, and find some entertainment and enjoyment from.

Posting soon,

E.Ricci