Turning Points…Ugh. When will it end?

So me and the new girlfriend had our first fight or tiff, if you will.

It was just this past weekend. She was acting strangely, rightfully so as it turns out. There were some legitimate concerns she was having about the relationship and our current circumstances and how they may or may not be affected by some changes that will be occuring in my life in the next few weeks; specifically college graduation.

“So, what is it that you want to do with yourself after you graduate? Do you plan on staying around here? Are you looking for a job in your field? What do you want to do?” She asked.

Trying to Pretend…

“I’ve been seeing someone new
She’s nothing like you
But I’m not comparing

They tell me that it takes time
To be patient and I’ll find
Everything has it’s reason

But I don’t buy in
So I guess that I’ll keep fighting it

I’m waiting to forget
I’m trying to pretend
That I’m not missing you again

When you gracefully creep in
You bring back these feelings
But I’m not missing you

I’m not missing you…” -Averi

Guys Night

The Sixers are back in town tonight in a playoff battle.

My boy just landed his dream job straight out of college this weekend.

Weather is great.

Got a great new girlfriend, which I will be providing long-awaited details soon to come, I promise.

Semester and school year, wait, COLLEGE is almost near its conclusion.

With so many reasons, it only makes sense to head out tonight to celebrate a little.

Yes, a guy’s night out it will be.

Yes…

Posting,

 

E.Ricci

Five Things Guys Overlook in Dating

Okay, guys so you’re about to ask that cutie from work out on a date and find dinner and a movie a little mundane. Maybe you’ve hit date two or three and feel like the river of impressive ideas has run dry for you. Or, you can’t figure out why you can’t get over the hump and seal the deal with that special someone in the romance category.

No problem. Pay attention to these five dating tips that we males tend to overlook and you may find your fortunes turning around.

1. Spend Less Money- We guys have this misconception that in order to really impress a woman, you have to drop a lot of cash on expensive dinner dates or on shiny things that will probably end up sitting in a jewelry box on her dresser and setting you back financially.

Stop thinking money is the only way to gain her attention and keep her coming back for more. If she really likes you or is interested, money is of no object.

If you really want to make a good impression on a date, skip the reservations for two at that cozy little Italian place that never fails and try making her dinner instead. The idea of man that can cook and is willing to do so for her, makes a woman feel all the more special or important. Especially, if the dining experience ends up being a romantic suprise candlelight rendezvous.

2. Invest the Time- A lot of men fail to understand how vital time and attention are to a woman and to the success of a relationship. Once again, this falls back into the misconception that money answereth all things.

No, no my boy. This will not do. You need to give a women time and attention.

She wants to see you. So, make the time and put forth the effort. Even if you’re swampped at work and barely have a minute to spare. Don’t send her flowers or a card. Be original.

Swing by her work for a few and bring the flowers, or maybe a little lunch. Learn to set aside and dedicate a little one-on-one time for just you and her. Let her know that she’s just as important, if not more, than finalizing that corporate merger at work.

3. Pay Attention- This one never fails to amaze me as to how many men fail to catch on to how important it is and how much it improves their relationship status simply by paying a little more attention to what their woman says or does.

I’m no better, fellas, really. But, I realized how sometimes tuning out or not paying full attention to my ladylove would end up shooting my own self in the foot. So, learn to listen up!

Pay attention to what she’s saying. More than likely, it may just be banter or gossip about what has happened that day, and I sympathize gentleman, I really do. But, actually listening and responding or remaining coherent in the conversation shows her how much you care and that you want to know what she’s thinking, feeling, or what she’s going through.

It’s also a real plus and very impressive to her if you’re able to recall or pull up things from her talks, even if it’s just little tidbits from the discussions you’ve had. It goes miles with her. Trust me.

4. Be a Gentleman, (Not just on the first date!)- Now, now, now… I shouldn’t have to say this. This should be an obvious “must do” for guys. If you ever want to get anywhere with any girl you’re trying to woo, the only way to go about it is to simply be a gentleman.

I don’t care how nonchalant she claims to be, it speaks volumes to her about your character if you speak confidently with good grammer and pronounciation. No swearing, foul language. I know, as guys we may slip from time to time. But, she is a lady. Try to avoid speaking to her like a teammate in a locker room.

Women may deny it, but they absolutely love chivalry. Open and hold doors, offer your coat if it’s a little brisk outside, be polite to her and to the waitstaff where ever you take her. And YES, do pay for the check. This isn’t a casual “friends” lunch or business lunch. Be a gentleman and do the right thing.

5. Confidence, not Cockiness- It’s a myth that women fall for the assholes or the cocky, self-indulged type.

No, what women fall for, what they want, is a man that knows what he wants and is willing to confidently communicate it and go after it.

Don’t come off to bold. There is a fine line between being bold and confident and brash and cocky. Learn to find the line early on, and stick to the acceptable side of it. Confidence is a huge mood killer and can easily ruin your chances with a girl if you con’t come off as having it or perhaps, having too much of it. Balance it, and you’ll find things will come easily for you.

Well, there you have it. Hope this helps to enhance your romantic endeavors.

Good Luck fellas,

Posting,

 

E.Ricci

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Who goes to class anymore?
Oh Goodness.
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I just wanted to tell you I love you.
Bye!!!”

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Trip Down Memory Lane…

I step outside today, “How nice it is…” I think to myself. Let’s go for a jog.

“The weather is gorgeous outside. I could use some sun too.”

I’m running. It feels great. So far, the iPod is in one of those grooves where the random shuffle has put together a decent playlist.

I get about three quarters of the way through my typical trek through town, when an oldie but a goodie from one of my favorite artists, Jay-Z, comes on; Song Cry performed live from Hova’s MTV: Unplugged perfomance.

It starts playing. Granted, it’s not exactly the best song to jog to. Still, I love the lyrics and the meaning behind the song.

Falling into Memories of You

All has been well on the dating front,

Though I haven’t been doing a lot of dating since I’ve been quite busy with other things. Perhaps, that is what happens to people who come out of a long term relationship.

Instead of trying to time the precise jump back into the double dutch of life or rush yourself back out into the oncoming traffic known as dating, focus a little more time on yourself.

Maybe, just maybe, it’s best to let life and work and other things preoccupy you. Then, when you least expect it, a potential suitor or right relationship situation will present itself.

Just maybe…

E.Ricci

A Coach?

No, Ladies.

I’m not referring to unnecessary high-end purses or luggage.

Some thoughts of yours truly have been on the idea or notion of rebound dating and how it may be seen from the prospective of a dating coach.

Yes, your boy may be going the Will Smith “Hitch” route.

Best Dating Sites

In the midst of doing some research over the past few weeks on the online dating/matchmaking industry, I came across a few sites that rank, in order of best to worst, who the writer’s from these websites feel are the best internet dating service provider websites.

Here are those sites…

TopMatchmakers.net – Offers the premium sites that are out there for those interested in online matchmaking or finding someone special. Ratings list and reviews are helpful on this site. Links to each dating service’s website are available as well.

Dating Websites Comparisons – Narrows the list to a solid top five choices. Their selections are some not-so-well-known ones, a little more off the unbeaten path. But, pretty interesting. Reviews are short and sweet, very easy to read.

myOnlineDatingService.com – Ten Best Dating Websites, another good top 10 list with reviews and ratings.

Consumer Search’s Online Dating Service Review - Reviewed on September of this year, this site lists some of the top dating sites out of a possible 23 sites reviewed. The site also offers some explanations about the site and why they’re so good.

And there you have it.

For those interested in finding love or forming new relationships but aren’t sure where and how, hope this helps.

Good Luck.

Posting,

E.Ricci

Not So Harmonious

As it turns out, eHarmony.com, a dating/matchmaking internet service with a clientele ranging over 17 million subscribers may be alienating a significant percentage of Americans. 

Sticking with the trend of online dating service providers, (ala It’s Just Lunch),  I was quite suprised on Monday by news from a fellow classmate that eHarmony.com, arguably the most popular internet matchmaking service, has been an alleged practitioner of discrimination against gays and lesbians.