Why is She so Confusing???

I had pretty much written things off. I didn’t expect any further communication between third “board” girl and I.

I was content with that.

Now, I have no idea what I’ve gotten into. All I know is that I’m knee deep in it.

Wednesday night, with nothing else to do after a really slow evening of class, I somehow found myself on the phone with third “board” actually having an intellectual conversation.

What’s better? Instead of confusion and frustration, it was enjoyable. Playful and fun actually. She’s very honest, but also very sarcastic. This goes well with my cynical and sardonic sense of humor.

You Get What You Give

It’s as old civilization, spanning back to Christ’s Golden Rule and the Buddhist belief in Karma, even as far back as ancient Mesopotamia with the Great Hammurabi and his Codes.

What goes around, comes around.

Case in point: You Get What You Give.

Third “Board” girl, i.e. the one I work with, decided to call me at 4am, for who knew what reason. If I had to guess, which I did the next morning while frustrated with myself for even trying to return her call, the sudden urge to contact me now probably had something to do with the fact that I completely ignored her during our shift the previous evening.

It’s Just…Fraud?

If up late enough or home with nothing to do in the mid-afternoon, you may catch a clever little commercial for a company called, “It’s Just Lunch.”

If this commerical peaks your interest like it did mine, hence this report, you’ll find yourself referring to the franchised dating service provider’s website where anyone can find a link to the 100 nationwide locations that hold an It’s Just Lunch, (IJL), establishment.

“The Dating Service for Busy Professionals” provides what they claim to be an easy, efficient, and results producing way for overworked busy-bodies to meet new people and bolster their dating life. The site offers everything from dating facts, suggestions and advice to alleged testamonials from the Wall Street Journal and current IJL clients all not-too-suprisingly offering positive feedback on IJL’s services.

Blissful Weekend of Work

With work Thursday thru Saturday nights and homework to top if off, not too much will be happening in the way of dating or social events.

I was planning on heading down to Baltimore with friends to celebrate one’s birthday while taking in the club/bar scene at B-more’s Inner Harbor.

Instead, I will be catering to the likes of drunken fraternity brothers and potentially sober girls trying to avoid eye contact and other forms of communication with these sophisticated single studs.

One interesting note about these next two workdays is that I will more than likely come into contact with lil’ Miss Invisible, aka third “board” girl.

I mean, what was she thinking when she decided it’d be a good idea to just stop communicating all-together with me? Was she so nearsighted or dense that she failed to consider the fact that we work together and would probably be seeing each other again in the near distant future? How could anyone with half a brain overlook that?

 Tip GIRLS: If you don’t like a guy, or for some reason, things just don’t work out, don’t play the “let me ignore him until he goes away” card so generously. Granted, I will applaud this method’s effectiveness, it will get the job done as the guy will get the hint and leave well enough alone. However, there may come a point, as in this case, where you may end up dealing directly with that same guy that you so easily gave the brush off to. And now what do you do?

 It’s quite comical, actually.

I’m not sure what i’m expecting but, it won’t be anything much. I’m just wondering if she’ll still have both hands attached to her body, seeing as how that would be the only excuse for suddenly not being able to pick up a phone or reply to a message.

We’ll see.

Should be interesting,

Posting,

E.Ricci

To Call or Not to Call

Ugh…I dread this part of the ridiculous song-and-dance known as dating.

It’s called, “The Phone Tag Game.”

To call, or not to call? That is the question. Whether tis nobler in the mind to put thyself out there and swallow thy ‘manstones’ and call m’lady. Or tis better to hold desperately onto oneself’s pride and resist over-pursuing in vain?

Enough makeshift Shakespeare. The short of it is this; it’s been nearly four days since I’ve heard anything from the third “board” girl. I’ve been pursuing up until this point.

Third “Board” Update

If there could have been a more pristine, more perfectly orchestrated first date, I’d love to see it.

She was GRRRRRRREEEAAAAAATTTTT…

She was gorgeous, funny, interesting, polite, sincere, and most importantly-honest.

The date itself was splendid. 

We did dinner and drinks at a local restaurant. The place stayed open late for us, the owner comp-ed our drinks, we both had a great time together, and towards the end of the evening neither one of us wanted the night to end.

Okay, the recap…

Second “Board” update I

“Oh, I just got home from work i’m watching tv now and I just remembered to call.”

The words via text message from the Salad Works/Hard to Read girl at about 9:30 pm.

At around 11:30 am yesterday I asked her if she was busy and wanted to go out that evening. She responded that she would be working till 8:30 pm but after had no plans and the idea of going out after work, “Sounds great.”

So I told her to give me a call when she got out of work at 8:30. She said ok.

An hour passed. No call.

Mind you, I was in the company of a buddy from college who just happened to be in the area at the time. I was planning on just relaxing with him until Salad Works girl called, at which point I would head out to go pick her up and begin our evening dinner date.

When she finally called, which by the way- she didn’t even call she sent a text message, she informed me that she was watching tv and remembered over an hour after her shift had ended to contact me. What’s worse is, she gave no impression or inclination about wanting to head out at this point.

And frankly, I wasn’t much in the mood to go spending time, money, and effort on a girl that obviously didn’t find me important enough to remember to call. She didn’t even show the decency to call, she sent a text message instead. Come on?!

I was a little disappointed, a pretty frustrated with her. I didn’t ask much of her. I can understand if a person is so busy that it slips their mind about the conversation and the plans that we had made earlier in the day.

But, when you finally do remember that I asked you to call, at least show a little class and call. When you do call, it’d be nice if you offered an apology for forgetting and leaving me waiting.

And if, perhaps, it is the case that you really didn’t feel up for going out after work and that may be why you didn’t call till so late, do me a favor; just call and say it. It looks so much better and respectable for a person to call and say, “hey, I know we had plans tonight but, i’m kind of tired from work and I’d much rather stay in and take a rain check on that date.”

Do not take the cowardly way out by delaying the call call either hoping I’ll forget our plans or in an effort to stall until you’ve come up with the fortitude or a good enough excuse to give me the “brush off”. It seems to me like the right thing to do.

Oh well. Her loss.

Second “Board” Status: Mission Aborted

 I’m off to work so,

Posting,

E.Ricci

Second “Board”

Tonight I will be grabbing another “board”.

This time it will be the girl I mentioned in the previous post. Just to refresh, I have all ready taken this girl out before and we did Salad Works earlier this week. She’s the very hard to read one.

 Well, i’m gonna take another crack at trying to decipher her. Hopefully all goes well.

Not sure what i’m planning for the evening, but i’m definitely feeling dinner. Perhaps, a few drinks afterwards at the bar. We’ll see.

I’ll keep you posted,

E.Ricci

Another interesting week of events…

Hello all,

It’s been quite the week for me. My mom has been ill with what doctor’s have diagnosed as walking pneumonia.

So, as a good boy, I’ve been spending the last few evenings at her house keeping watch and taking care of her and assuming home responsibilities.

Last night I went out to a local Hibachi with some friends from school. It was enjoyable. Then half way through the evening one of my friends starts asking me about my recent breakup.

Mind you, I tried avoiding the topic all together. I know how cumbersome and mood dulling it can be to have someone start talking about their breakup, their ex, or something regarding a failed intimate relationship. So I tried shying from the subject, remaining upbeat and positive about other things.

This same friend that initiated the conversation, also began our joint freefall into all things hopelessly romantic by informing me of his recent relationship disaster, an account that seemed to follow my own script page for page.

As we were force feeding each other the painful details of our respective failures, it became obvious that we were both boring and annoying the rest of our friends.

I remembered quickly, “They came here for a good time with us, not to hear our pity party and exchange of numbingly redundant advice.”

I immediately changed the subject, allowing the night to move in a much more pleasant direction than where it was heading.

…I’ve been thinking about and contacting a few girls that I’ve met in the past couple of weeks.

I did meet up with one of these girls on Tuesday at the gym. We didn’t work out together but we did grab an early dinner at Salad Works.

She’s interesting and attractive. I’ve had her out on a previous movie date and things seemed to have went well. I just can’t seem to get a gauge on her. I’m not sure if she’s interested, or if I’m nothing more to her than a warm meal and relaxing conversation every other Saturday.

She’s a hard read. Perhaps, I’m just out of touch or need a little tuning up on these endeavors. I’m not really sure.

Other than that, I haven’t had much going on in the dating scene this week. Hopefully the weekend will add up to something.

Likely weekend events in the preliminary planning stages include;

A. Another guy’s night out…perhaps, just towards something more of a bar scene and not so much a club. We’ll see. I may be swayed in either direction.

B. A possible “experiment”, i.e. date, with one of the female subjects that I have been in contact with recently.

C. Maybe just some down time. A little “Me on Me” time this weekend. We get so wrapped up in class, work, obligations, and then wanting to spend time meeting and dating and potentially finding love in new places that we fail at giving ourselves a little time to refocus or recenter.

Plus, with my ex and I’s anniversary just passing this past weekend and my birthday looming a week from now, I’m beginning to feel emotionally drained.

We’ll see. I say I’ll take a break now. But, by tomorrow evening or Saturday I will likely be all revved up to go out and do something, anything.

Posting,

E.Ricci