The Last Hurrah…

“College is a single guy’s playground. Go play, Ed….Go play.”

I was having yet another discussion with some peers when an interesting perspective was presented to me about college graduation and how this turning point in a young person’s life may or may not affect their dating or relationship situation.

A fellow single friend pointed out that after his graduation, upon entering the real life, full-time, 9-5, work force grind known as life, his potential dating options had slimmed down quite a bit.

Why is She so Confusing???

I had pretty much written things off. I didn’t expect any further communication between third “board” girl and I.

I was content with that.

Now, I have no idea what I’ve gotten into. All I know is that I’m knee deep in it.

Wednesday night, with nothing else to do after a really slow evening of class, I somehow found myself on the phone with third “board” actually having an intellectual conversation.

What’s better? Instead of confusion and frustration, it was enjoyable. Playful and fun actually. She’s very honest, but also very sarcastic. This goes well with my cynical and sardonic sense of humor.

You Get What You Give

It’s as old civilization, spanning back to Christ’s Golden Rule and the Buddhist belief in Karma, even as far back as ancient Mesopotamia with the Great Hammurabi and his Codes.

What goes around, comes around.

Case in point: You Get What You Give.

Third “Board” girl, i.e. the one I work with, decided to call me at 4am, for who knew what reason. If I had to guess, which I did the next morning while frustrated with myself for even trying to return her call, the sudden urge to contact me now probably had something to do with the fact that I completely ignored her during our shift the previous evening.

Facebook Stalking? Oh Internet…What happened to letters and telephones?

Facebook Stalking: A not-so-new or trendy term in today’s dating society, especially at the high school and collegiate levels.

Thanks to the wonderous technologies afforded to our generation, the concepts of a completely blind date are almost extinct.

It’s an interesting topic of discussion that I engaged while in ironically, of all places, a computer lab.

According to UrbanDictionary.com, Facebook Stalking is a covert method of investigation using Facebook.com. It’s good for discovering a wealth of information about people you don’t actually know.

Second “Board” update I

“Oh, I just got home from work i’m watching tv now and I just remembered to call.”

The words via text message from the Salad Works/Hard to Read girl at about 9:30 pm.

At around 11:30 am yesterday I asked her if she was busy and wanted to go out that evening. She responded that she would be working till 8:30 pm but after had no plans and the idea of going out after work, “Sounds great.”

So I told her to give me a call when she got out of work at 8:30. She said ok.

An hour passed. No call.

Mind you, I was in the company of a buddy from college who just happened to be in the area at the time. I was planning on just relaxing with him until Salad Works girl called, at which point I would head out to go pick her up and begin our evening dinner date.

When she finally called, which by the way- she didn’t even call she sent a text message, she informed me that she was watching tv and remembered over an hour after her shift had ended to contact me. What’s worse is, she gave no impression or inclination about wanting to head out at this point.

And frankly, I wasn’t much in the mood to go spending time, money, and effort on a girl that obviously didn’t find me important enough to remember to call. She didn’t even show the decency to call, she sent a text message instead. Come on?!

I was a little disappointed, a pretty frustrated with her. I didn’t ask much of her. I can understand if a person is so busy that it slips their mind about the conversation and the plans that we had made earlier in the day.

But, when you finally do remember that I asked you to call, at least show a little class and call. When you do call, it’d be nice if you offered an apology for forgetting and leaving me waiting.

And if, perhaps, it is the case that you really didn’t feel up for going out after work and that may be why you didn’t call till so late, do me a favor; just call and say it. It looks so much better and respectable for a person to call and say, “hey, I know we had plans tonight but, i’m kind of tired from work and I’d much rather stay in and take a rain check on that date.”

Do not take the cowardly way out by delaying the call call either hoping I’ll forget our plans or in an effort to stall until you’ve come up with the fortitude or a good enough excuse to give me the “brush off”. It seems to me like the right thing to do.

Oh well. Her loss.

Second “Board” Status: Mission Aborted

 I’m off to work so,

Posting,

E.Ricci

Second “Board”

Tonight I will be grabbing another “board”.

This time it will be the girl I mentioned in the previous post. Just to refresh, I have all ready taken this girl out before and we did Salad Works earlier this week. She’s the very hard to read one.

 Well, i’m gonna take another crack at trying to decipher her. Hopefully all goes well.

Not sure what i’m planning for the evening, but i’m definitely feeling dinner. Perhaps, a few drinks afterwards at the bar. We’ll see.

I’ll keep you posted,

E.Ricci

Another interesting week of events…

Hello all,

It’s been quite the week for me. My mom has been ill with what doctor’s have diagnosed as walking pneumonia.

So, as a good boy, I’ve been spending the last few evenings at her house keeping watch and taking care of her and assuming home responsibilities.

Last night I went out to a local Hibachi with some friends from school. It was enjoyable. Then half way through the evening one of my friends starts asking me about my recent breakup.

Mind you, I tried avoiding the topic all together. I know how cumbersome and mood dulling it can be to have someone start talking about their breakup, their ex, or something regarding a failed intimate relationship. So I tried shying from the subject, remaining upbeat and positive about other things.

This same friend that initiated the conversation, also began our joint freefall into all things hopelessly romantic by informing me of his recent relationship disaster, an account that seemed to follow my own script page for page.

As we were force feeding each other the painful details of our respective failures, it became obvious that we were both boring and annoying the rest of our friends.

I remembered quickly, “They came here for a good time with us, not to hear our pity party and exchange of numbingly redundant advice.”

I immediately changed the subject, allowing the night to move in a much more pleasant direction than where it was heading.

…I’ve been thinking about and contacting a few girls that I’ve met in the past couple of weeks.

I did meet up with one of these girls on Tuesday at the gym. We didn’t work out together but we did grab an early dinner at Salad Works.

She’s interesting and attractive. I’ve had her out on a previous movie date and things seemed to have went well. I just can’t seem to get a gauge on her. I’m not sure if she’s interested, or if I’m nothing more to her than a warm meal and relaxing conversation every other Saturday.

She’s a hard read. Perhaps, I’m just out of touch or need a little tuning up on these endeavors. I’m not really sure.

Other than that, I haven’t had much going on in the dating scene this week. Hopefully the weekend will add up to something.

Likely weekend events in the preliminary planning stages include;

A. Another guy’s night out…perhaps, just towards something more of a bar scene and not so much a club. We’ll see. I may be swayed in either direction.

B. A possible “experiment”, i.e. date, with one of the female subjects that I have been in contact with recently.

C. Maybe just some down time. A little “Me on Me” time this weekend. We get so wrapped up in class, work, obligations, and then wanting to spend time meeting and dating and potentially finding love in new places that we fail at giving ourselves a little time to refocus or recenter.

Plus, with my ex and I’s anniversary just passing this past weekend and my birthday looming a week from now, I’m beginning to feel emotionally drained.

We’ll see. I say I’ll take a break now. But, by tomorrow evening or Saturday I will likely be all revved up to go out and do something, anything.

Posting,

E.Ricci